The way you connect with others may make more sense than you realize.
Maybe you become anxious when someone feels distant, find yourself needing reassurance, pull away when relationships get too close, or notice yourself wanting connection and fearing it at the same time. These reactions aren’t random. They can develop from earlier relationships and experiences that taught you what to expect from closeness, trust, and vulnerability.
This short self-assessment can help you identify the attachment pattern you may lean toward and better understand how it can show up in your relationships today. Your results aren’t a diagnosis or a permanent label—they’re a starting point for recognizing patterns, understanding what may be underneath them, and discovering where change may be possible.
Take this assessment to explore your attachment style and gain insight into the patterns shaping the way you connect.
We all develop ways of navigating closeness, trust, vulnerability, and disconnection. Some of these patterns help us feel secure. Others may have developed as ways of protecting ourselves.
Answer the following questions based on how you tend to feel and respond in close relationships—not how you think you should respond.
This assessment is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a diagnostic tool, and attachment patterns are not fixed personality types.
How this pattern may show up
What may be happening underneath
Where growth can begin
Your patterns can change.
Attachment patterns can be deeply learned, but they do not have to determine the future of your relationships. Therapy can help you understand where these responses came from, work with the experiences underneath them, and build a greater sense of security in yourself and with others.
This self-assessment is intended for education and personal reflection. It does not diagnose an attachment disorder, mental health condition, or determine how you will behave in every relationship. People can show different attachment responses in different relationships and circumstances.